Persistence Pays Off On Adult Dating Websites

While meeting women on any kind of  online dating site  it is generally a numbers game, this is especially true with adult dating websites. Actually it is more than one numbers game envloved here. The first numbers game is simply that the more women you contact, the greater your chance of actually meeting someone to hook up with. Of course, the better you are at writing your profile, your headlines, and your messages, the better you will be at that first numbers game. The second numbers game is the more times you contact a given individual, the more likely you will be able to hook up  for fun times with her.

Now we will talk about that second numbers game. Remember, on the legitimate adult dating sites,some women are receiving hundreds of messages per week quite a load. Even if you are a master of writing  Fascinating attention-getting message subject lines and fantastic messages, there’s still a good chance that your message will get lost in the huge volume of messages a given woman is receiving. So if she’s someone you are interested in, don’t be afraid to contact her on a steady basis to try to get noticed by her.

Now, what would be considered contacting someone on a regular basis? Contacting someone on a daily basis, while it meets the definition of “regular”, would probably be considered stalking, which will not only not tend to generate a favorable response, but will probably wind up getting your messages blocked. I recommend a frequency of about once every 2 to 4 weeks.

But what if she looks really hot and you’re really anxious to meet her? That would be your first mistake. You really need to develop the attitude that there are plenty of good looking women to hook up with and no matter how good she may look, she’s NOT the perfect woman. The best thing you can do to give yourself an active sex life is to NOT be too anxious to meet ANY woman. Be a bit stand-offish. Make contact, but don’t drool all over your keyboard as you type your message.

You  should want to be persistent and continue to express an interest as long as she still has her profile up and is active on the website. Now, what do I mean by “active”? Most sex dating sites will give you an indicator as to when the last time someone logged on to her account was. If she hasn’t been there in over a month, definitely don’t waste your time sending her a message. You are far better off spending your time messaging active members rather than hoping one particular woman will happen to log in again after being away for a month and happen to see your message and answer it. If she’s hot and she does come back after being gone for a month, she’ll probably have several hundred messages in her mailbox, and most likely she will just delete them all and start over. Even after just a couple of weeks, the huge volume of accumulated messages that a particularly good looking woman will undoubtedly have is more likely to be totally deleted than read,  I recommend sticking to sending messages to women who are checking in at least every week or so. Remember, you are not sending these messages every week – you follow-up every 2 to 4 weeks. By sending messages every 2 to 4 weeks, you will be seen as someone who is interested, but not an obsessed stalker or some kind of freak.

By Now you may be wondering what to send as a follow-up message. You could simply send the same (or almost the same) thing you did when you first contacted her. There is a good chance she did not get to read it the first time. You may want to change it up somewhat. The main thing is to try to come up with an interesting subject line and a brief, but interesting message. Besides that, don’t sweat it. If you’re contacting multiple women multiple times and you don’t come across as a stalker or some clingy wussy-boy, you will meet women and you will get laid – it’s simply a matter of time.